By our interactions, I had thought maybe Skyler liked me as well, but after that comment, I really didn’t know what to think.
(Later Skyler admitted that he thought his friend, who I had danced with at the wedding and who I was sitting by on the couch, and I liked each other. He didn’t want to “get in between us”. He had been in such an “avoid girlfriend’s” mode for the last few years, that he didn’t want to admit his feelings for me, even to himself. He also admitted later that he was dying for John to NOT ask me to dance for one dance at the wedding!)
He agreed to do this for me. Later, he told me that he thought I was just being a “girl” and trying to find another reason to see him. Although that’s a likely story, I really had figured he didn’t like me at all, and my interest was in getting my pillow back.
I was in bed in my old house that I had shared with my ex. It was nighttime. I was laying all the way at the edge of the bed, facing the closet. The other side of the bed was empty, but you could see that someone had been there – you could see the impression on that side of the bed, and the blankets were all pulled back and rumpled. I felt lonely and was weeping and called out to God in the darkness to give me a companion. He said to me, “turn around”. I rolled over and saw Him laying there next to me in bed. He said, “you don’t need to feel lonely. I’m always here.”
Right after I had this vision, someone came up to me (I’m not sure who, because I had my eyes closed), put their hand on my shoulder and told me “God’s taking your mourning and turning it into dancing.” And then she walked away. I was so blessed by church that morning. I really felt that God was telling me that he was ending that period of loneliness and sadness in my life and to be hopeful for this new season of joy and laughter.
Later that Sunday afternoon, I had texted Skyler to tell him I was back in Salem (at the time, I was living in Albany), and asked if he was able to meet me at the waterfront park. He said he wasn’t doing anything and would love to. We met up and I got my beloved pillow back. Skyler didn’t seem in any hurry to go, and I didn’t have any prior plans, so I asked him if he would want to toss a football around with me.
Then he turned and asked me what I had been up to for the last four years.
I smiled, unsure what to answer and what to share about my past.
I asked him, “how much do you want to know?”
To which, he replied, “I want to know everything!”
“Okaaaaay.” I was prepared to tell him everything. “I actually got married when I was 19, and we got divorced when I was 21.”
I wasn’t sure what to think of his reaction. No one has ever laughed when I said I got divorced.
He laughed because he does that when he doesn’t know what to say, which I learned later.
I proceeded to tell him about the relationship I had, the divorce, and that it was only a year prior and that I was living with my parents again and working a full time job as a Project Coordinator at a home building company and part time at Blockbuster, just to keep me occupied.
We continued conversation for a half hour or so, and I realized I was getting hungry.
Being a “go after what you want” kind of lady (even though what I desperately wanted was someone to pursue me), I was just about to ask Skyler if he wanted to join me for dinner somewhere and continue talking, when I felt a nudge from God. I felt Him tell me, “just wait, everything is going to be okay; let him ask you.”
It was literally about 2 minutes later when Skyler pulled out his phone, checked the time, and asked, “are you getting hungry? My family’s going to a pig roast, want to come?”
Unsure what a pig roast was, I gladly accepted his offer – just because I wanted more time to hang out. I left my car at the park and we drove together in his car out to a farm in West Salem. We had a feast of food, enjoyed horse shoes and I met his younger brother and his parents. We all had a great time at the pig roast. When it was time to leave, I remember his mom gave me a big hug and told me how nice it was to meet me.
(Here’s us at the pig roast! Sky’s mom snapped this of us. I promise we were happier than we look! 😉 A picture of a picture…poor quality!)
Skyler drove me back to the park to drop me off at my car. He put his car in park but we continued to talk – for three hours! Finally at midnight, we said goodnight and parted ways. Before we said goodbye, we agreed to try and meet up again sometime that week…
(Read Part Three…)